Monday, August 17, 2015

eBook Now Available

I've done it. Published my first eBook. Now available on Amazon.

While bits and pieces of my financial journey can be found through this blog, I thought about putting it all together in one place. Honestly, I've always wanted to write a book, too. I'm quite terrified, but I'm taking the plunge.

I still can't claim to be a financial expert, but I do have some things to say on how to change directions and can boast a few accomplishments:

  • My credit score is now 804.
  • I've gone from living paycheck to paycheck to living on last month's income.
  • I paid off $8,000 in credit card debt in less than two years.
  • I've paid in cash for my daughters and I to enjoy some wonderful experiences like seeing Newsies, going to the Hollywood Bowl, and some good meals with friends. 
  • I've paid in cash for car repairs, insurance premiums and moving costs.
  • I started investing in Betterment
If you or someone you know :) could use help in managing their budget, I hope you'll consider my new book, Balancing the Single Mom Budget.  And, of course, this link is associated with my Amazon account - though I have no idea if I still get a referral fee on a book written by me!

OMG, I wrote (and published) a book!

Thursday, June 11, 2015

Letter to My Daughter on Her High School Graduation



Well, here we are! You made it! I am so incredibly proud of you, and not just for graduating, but for how you’ve used this time to learn as much as you can about everything, and take advantage of almost every opportunity that came your way.

You are as ready as anyone can be to enter this new phase of your life. 
More than anything, I hope you know that you are not alone, and never will be alone, for as long as I’m around. And even longer, when you consider your sister, your family and friends…you will never be alone. 

While you know I’m a firm believer in independence, I hope I’ve also taught you that independence doesn’t mean you’re alone. It means you’re strong enough and wise enough to figure out what kind of help you need. Because we all need help, and the mature among us know how to ask for it and accept help. And to say please and thank you!

You have so many possibilities for your future, and I’m so excited to see what happens next! 

I love you fiercely and completely.
CONGRATULATIONS!!

Love always,
Your mom

Saturday, June 6, 2015

Financial Personality Quiz

Some (real) personal finance bloggers are participating in this event. I'm not one of them, but I played along anyway.

This site has a financial personality quiz. Of course, I had to take it and came up with the personality: Contrarian.


know yourself

The Contrarian

Independent Confident Non-conformist 7% in America are The Contrarian

As The Contrarian, you bring a blunt and independent approach to your social life and finances. You know what you like, and it’s going to be hard to change your mind. You’re very set in your ways and don’t follow trends simply because you see everyone else doing it. Your firm independence isn’t unlikeable though. Your friends appreciate your quick and biting wit and your ability to stand strong in support of your beliefs. You like playing devil’s advocate, and that earns you as much respect as it does criticism. But you wouldn’t have it any other way.

I must say, I agree with this assessment.  


Financial Habits of The Contrarian

  • Doesn’t reach out for or listen to other’s help and support in financial issues
  • Actively analyzes and tracks finances
  • Willing to go outside their comfort zone to get the best prices
  • Doesn’t spend impulsively and avoids peer, social, and environmental factors that can increase spending
  • Doesn’t fully trust others to manage their money
  • Sees the long-term outcomes of their current spending
I agree with some of this, except I am totally not willing to go outside my comfort zone for the best prices! And the first one's only kind of true; I seek out advice constantly on blogs, websites, the YNAB forum and podcasts, but it's all very passive. While I did see a financial adviser at my credit union, I only took some of his advice. I used to be much more impulsive, so I'm proud of the changes I've made there, and I am definitely focused on the long-term goals. 

How Being The Contrarian Can Impact Your Dream

Contrarian, your dreams often begin and end with a strong sense of yourself. And while it is impossible to have too much inner strength, never forget those who help you every day. No person is an island and no dream built alone.
 As someone who takes pride in being independent, this is not shocking to me, but it's probably true that I could give more credit to others where due. 

Still, I kind of love being thought of as a Contrarian!

Friday, May 29, 2015

A Few of My Favorite Podcasts

I love listening to podcasts in the car, while doing housework, and in lieu of flipping channels, now that we're sans cable.

Here are a few of my favorites (no affiliate links or anything like that):

APM's Marketplace: I have the all-in-one, which amounts to 4 podcasts every weekday, but 3 of them are generally only about 7 minutes long, and the last is about 26 minutes. Great for keeping up with the latest in economic/business news.

So Money: Farnoosh publishes every.single.day. The weekday podcasts are about a half hour and she interviews those from all walks of life, but she includes some of the same financial questions in every interview. On the weekends, she answers listener questions (average 15 minutes).

Ask Me Another: NPR's other game show (I also subscribe to Wait Wait...). My favorite part is Jonathan Coulton, their one-man house band and his alternate lyrics to popular songs for their quizzes.

Death, Sex and Money: I found this one from their premier on This American Life (another fave).  I love that she interviews people from all walks of life, known and unknown, but my favorite episode was with Ellen Burstyn.

So far, all Gimlet Media shows: StartUp, Reply All and their newest, Mystery Show. Seriously, love all of them!

How to Do Everything always makes me smile. Note to Self (formerly New Tech City) always makes me think.

I think I actually scared someone when I was waiting for Sylvia one night and I got so happy with one of the segments on Wait Wait Don't Tell Me that I shouted "Yes!"  I have to reserve StoryCorps for when I'm home, because it usually tears me up.

And yes, I'm anxious for the next season of Serial to start already!
These are just some of my favorites. Yes, I'm addicted to podcasts. It probably doesn't help that nearly all of them include a promotion for another one so I just keep adding new favorites. And listening has gotten easier now that I finally switched to the Stitcher app. Now I don't even have to decide which one I'm going to listen to, I just start the app.

With headphones and my podcasts, washing dishes almost takes too little time! Almost.







Monday, May 25, 2015

Cleaner Laundry



MyGreenFills reached out to me to try their products, and this was the first such request I've accepted in a very long time.

Long-time readers will know how thrilled I am now to do laundry since moving and getting my own washer and dryer. Happy as I was, and happy as I've been that my utility bills haven't shot up with my HE washer and dryer, I had noticed that after a few weeks, laundry was getting an unpleasant smell, so I had been thinking about switching laundry detergents anyway.

This is even better because MyGreenFills is committed to lessening the load of laundry jugs each household buys to just one last jug.

Instead of buying a new jug, you get refill packets and mix that with water to refill your jug. Not only that, but the packets are made with hypo-allergenic, non-toxic materials.

The same concept applies for liquid softener and color brightener and other products.

To be honest, I hope to buy just one more jug from MyGreenFills, if they fix two design flaws. One: it's difficult to see where exactly the Fill line is when you're adding the water. Two: it's also hard to see the lines for measuring. Still, I haven't noticed any issues in the performance, even if I didn't get either of those exactly right.

I'm not sure I'll be refilling my fabric softener, because I'm quite happy with my wool dryer balls.

But I'll most definitely be refilling the laundry soap. And I have not noticed any unpleasant odors from my washer (or laundry) since switching to MyGreenFills.

They will send you a jug for free (you pay shipping and handling) by clicking this link (just beware: when the page opens, an incredibly loud video starts playing so hover over your mute button).

All links in this post are affiliate links and will generate a small referral fee. All opinions expressed in this post are my own.

Wednesday, May 20, 2015

Millionaire Day (Who Knew?)

I'm late to the party, but apparently May 20 is Millionaire Day. Really, it's an excuse to think about your financial situation and how to improve it.

Some ideas/methods I've used to improve my own financial situation over the past few years:

Automate your savings.  A certain amount automatically gets transferred into my online savings account every paycheck. Whenever I'm able to decrease a monthly expense (see below), I increase that amount accordingly (which also helps to avoid lifestyle creep; meaning, increasing your monetary obligations when your income increases). While Sylvia's isn't automated, the first thing we do when budgeting her paycheck is put 20% into her emergency savings. She's tried to convince me that a broken backpack is an emergency, but I've explained to her that the only times she can use it are: in a medical emergency, in case of job loss or to pay for something she needs for an actual job. An example of the latter: when I needed emergency expediting of my passport application in order to work on the cruise ship. If/when she moves out on her own, I want her to always think twice (and preferably call me) before she dips into her emergency savings.

Pick a monthly expense to decrease. Maybe you can decrease or eliminate your cable bill. Maybe you can look for a better cell phone provider or call your current cell phone provider and see if another plan will work for you. Switching to Republic Wireless cut our monthly cell phone bill by about 1/3 (the catch is you have to buy their phones). Maybe you can downgrade or cancel your Netflix plan or newspaper subscription. I've found the best way for me to decide what to cut is being away of which bill makes me cranky.

Menu Plan. It took me forever to get a handle on my grocery budget. For me, the solution wasn't coupons or driving to three different stores with their weekly sales flyers. It was my itemized grocery budget spreadsheet. After each shopping trip, I update the spreadsheet with the price for each item purchased. When I plan the menu & shopping list for the next week, I update again with those quantities and see if my total is at least a few dollars under my budget. This month, with just one more shopping trip to go, I'm well under my monthly budget and have been for the past few months. Of course, I stick to my list, too!

Budget and Pay No Attention to your Bank Balance.  I check my bank account online every day, but I'm not looking at the balance, I'm looking at what has cleared the bank so I can update YNAB. YNAB does allow for reconciliation using your bank's info, but I don't use that and don't recommend it for those of us trying to improve our financial lives. While automatic bill pay and savings are great, being aware is the first step to changing any habit. Because the first rule of YNAB is to give every dollar a job, it doesn't really matter to me what the total is; it matters what jobs my dollars are doing. That's reflected in my budget, not my bank balance.

Value Your Time Over Money. Pinching pennies isn't going to make any of us millionaires. I've almost finished reading Essentialism, and am finding that I'm already doing many of the things the book recommends. Just as I don't spend time couponing or driving all over town for the best deal on whatever, I'm also not killing myself trying to get to place and events that I'm not excited to attend. It makes those times I do go out even more enjoyable. Having said that, I look forward to purchases that are going to make my life easier or better, like my new recliner :) Makes kicking back at the end of a day so much more relaxing! And what with a new relaxing recliner, really no desire to hunch over scissors and coupon mailers! Allowing yourself free time (or "me" time) also gives you time to dream, as well as make plans to make your dreams come true. (Necessary disclosure: link to the book above is connected to my Amazon affiliate account and you can increase my income - ever so slightly - if you purchase using that link.)

Value People Over Time or Money. As Suze Orman famously says, people first... Sylvia is less than a month away from high school graduation, and I feel like we're both as ready as we can be for that. While her working means she's gone a lot more, we still find time every week to have deep, meaningful conversations about her present and future. A lot of that time, we've talked about money and budgeting, so I feel confident that she has good enough tools to get her started. While she's at work, Riley and I also have valuable conversations about her present and future. She's got big dreams and goals, and we're putting together the best plan possible to get her there. While we all still have our pain points and unproductive times as well, overall, I'm feeling pretty good about where we are and the relationships we have with each other.

My goal, in the end, is not to be a millionaire, but to be financially free enough to pursue activities I enjoy and spend time with people I enjoy. So I guess I can celebrate Millionaire Day today by feeling rich in what I already have! 




Sunday, May 10, 2015

Mother's Day 2015

I wanted to write something for Mother's Day, but was struggling on what to say. So I took a little trip down the archives of this blog and it reminded me of something that made me smile.

We were leaving Sylvia's Senior Art Show the other night, and had planned to pick up dinner on the way home.

I said, "what do we want?" and Sylvia replied, "equal rights." Without skipping a beat, I said, "when do we want it?" and both girls said, "now!" Nearly 7 years ago, the girls and I marched to that chant.

The archives reminded me of so many struggles we've been through, as well as the successes.

So the only thing I can really think to do is link to previous Mother's Day posts. Don't worry, there's not a post for every year! I'm not nearly that consistent!

From 2008. Sadly, most of these people don't blog anymore. Or maybe it's a sign that I shouldn't be, either! 

2009, though I'm sort of cheating because it was posted prior to Mother's Day, but still a worthy sentiment: Remember a Single Mom this Mother's Day.

2011 is short.

2012 was dedicated to my mom.

2013 is the best and worth the read.

As always, to all the moms, and most especially the single moms, Happy Mother's Day!