tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post6153204226865275319..comments2023-09-25T07:18:11.130-07:00Comments on It's All About Balance: Balancing Apathy and EmpathyAprilhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12051174636017409935noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-79205745907732899582009-03-04T18:57:00.000-08:002009-03-04T18:57:00.000-08:00I know how that goes. The whole political thing. I...I know how that goes. The whole political thing. I won't get started. That along with other personal stuff is causing me to be easily aggravated and morose. I hope I have the energy to blog tomorrow.Shionahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12492147249152256505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-53984935442806427352009-03-04T08:35:00.000-08:002009-03-04T08:35:00.000-08:00I can relate to this. Sometimes I just get to a pl...I can relate to this. Sometimes I just get to a place where I don't care anymore. I do what is required and nothing else. Hope you feel better soon.jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16397705917751266966noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-55795529193903274522009-03-03T16:29:00.000-08:002009-03-03T16:29:00.000-08:00You need to slow down. I invite you, and you decid...You need to slow down. I invite you, and you decide if you can make it.<BR/><BR/>We'll get together another time, because trust me, I don't feel like leaving the house every day either.Jessica Gottliebhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16661278347874746188noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-43961267808553227232009-03-03T10:40:00.000-08:002009-03-03T10:40:00.000-08:00Well April, I've been there a bit longer than 36 h...Well April, I've been there a bit longer than 36 hours! I have the very same feelings you describe sometimes and I just have to shut down and not deal and not feel for a bit. I always get back to normal at some point but I do think it's OK to hit pause every now and then.MindyMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01103345017455083144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-43116744515340520752009-03-03T06:49:00.000-08:002009-03-03T06:49:00.000-08:00Ahoe to the last line April.I kept thinking as I w...Ahoe to the last line April.<BR/><BR/>I kept thinking as I was reading along how you sound so truly overwhelmed, something I know can and does happen to all of us. <BR/><BR/>And I kept willing you to just stay in the moment. That's when I read your last line. <BR/><BR/>I think that is so much of it right there. It is all so much! Always will be. So we ask ourselves, what do I have to do now or in the next moment? <BR/><BR/>I know you will get "there." One moment at a time...wonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15300211472223702365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-63032368350777914652009-03-02T23:24:00.000-08:002009-03-02T23:24:00.000-08:00Wow! What a timely and relatable post. I feel li...Wow! What a timely and relatable post. I feel like as long as I keep moving I don't need to confront my feelings and/or emotions. <BR/><BR/>I hope you go back and see someone. Even if it doesn't help 100% it will make up feel better.Julia@SometimesLucidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14750362656434125400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-52362116191177809472009-03-02T15:08:00.000-08:002009-03-02T15:08:00.000-08:00I think everyone deserves to just say "f^&...I think everyone deserves to just say "f^&* it" every now and then. As long as you don't let it take over your life for good. For me, that time was when I was pregnant. When I was pregnant, I just couldn't deal. I let my Mom's calls go to voicemail, didn't feel bad about not making dinner, all that stuff. <BR/><BR/>The biggest step toward working through it is knowing that it can't last, so I think you're well on the way to getting over this eventually.FreedomFirsthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06758904672151505999noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-85218883042088171442009-03-02T13:08:00.000-08:002009-03-02T13:08:00.000-08:00I've been having some similar feelings lately myse...I've been having some similar feelings lately myself, but for different reasons. I'm just kind of overwhelmed these days, and the general climate of uncertainty is just plain exhausting sometimes.<BR/><BR/>If we actually <I>had</I> winter here, we could chalk some of it up to SAD or the "winter blahs," but I don't think we get to use that excuse in L.A. <BR/><BR/>The tricky part is that it's starting to get comfortable for you right now. Been there, and stayed there until it wasn't comfortable any more - at which point, I finally got some therapy.<BR/><BR/>I wish I could help, April. Hang in there.Florindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09789402061034734894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-32210870127913776892009-03-02T12:57:00.000-08:002009-03-02T12:57:00.000-08:00totally understand wanting to cocoon up at time. I...totally understand wanting to cocoon up at time. I do get tired of being let down too and with my vote...It seems whether I vote one or another it doesn't count and don't me started on the budget either. Hugs...this too shall pass and it will be okay for your girls...you are there for them.Julie@My5monkeyshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17861113387434481518noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-30401626440318681262009-03-02T12:41:00.000-08:002009-03-02T12:41:00.000-08:00As a child of divorce with a selfish father, that ...As a child of divorce with a selfish father, that is how I handled it. Not everyone is the same, but kids do learn how to adapt. Did my mom help me get there? Probably not. Does my dad's distance still hurt? Yes, in a way, but not in a crush my soul kind of way. I'd rather think Sylvia's going to adapt than to think she is going to hurt like this for the rest of her life, you know?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-10714510160520943592009-03-02T12:17:00.000-08:002009-03-02T12:17:00.000-08:00I disagree with Natalie; Sam's dad has been gone f...I disagree with Natalie; Sam's dad has been gone for over two years, hasn't even spoken to him at all, and the hurt doesn't go away; it just becomes something else to deal with. In time, there will be peace, but she has to figure out how to get there herself. As for the rest of the post? I love you- and it will pass, I think, just give it time. you are NOT bad mother, either.Korihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17523892197119604721noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-77901972724087613752009-03-02T11:16:00.000-08:002009-03-02T11:16:00.000-08:00Remember when I told you that I hadn't watched Oba...Remember when I told you that I hadn't watched Obama's speech? This is why. I don't want to deal with it anymore. I'm tired of thinking too hard about everything. So, I've made the decision to turn my thoughts inward, into my little circle and improve what is within immediate reach, like my parenting and the way I handle my every day situations. At least in these areas, changes are within my grasp. I can't do anything about the economy and stressing about it isn't making it any better. Perhaps I could be more active in my community, but there are so many uphill battles and I don't have the time or energy for them.<BR/><BR/>Basically, I get it. I'm not sure what to tell you about the girl's dad, except to say that there will come a time where she is no longer hurt about it. My dad was pretty uninvolved when I was growing up, though I did do the whole visit every other weekend thing. But, he really never acted interested and I'm sure that did something to me, but I learned long ago not to let it bother me superficially. She'll learn to handle it, too, it's just too bad she has to learn it at all.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-31106559815246059552009-03-02T11:12:00.000-08:002009-03-02T11:12:00.000-08:00I'm with you too April. Here lately all I've wante...I'm with you too April. Here lately all I've wanted is to runaway and just stop worrying about everything. It is the feeling powerless that is the toughest part.Tara R.https://www.blogger.com/profile/02993625193184914299noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-88862580687124347822009-03-02T10:44:00.000-08:002009-03-02T10:44:00.000-08:00April, I can so relate to what you express here, I...April, I can so relate to what you express here, I, too, have taken a step back from interactions. Can it be a bad thing to stop putting our hearts out there all the time just to be chastened or demoralized by what does, or doesn't, come back. Hunkering down into a shell is not a bad thing, isn't that how all manner of animals protect themselves? <BR/><BR/>Love and hugs to you and your daughters.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com